So often we shame our “bad” emotions. You know the ones – sadness, fear, anger, shame, etc. And, too often, we use the Bible to do it, something God’s Word was never intended for. “Are you sad? You know James 1:2, ‘Consider pure joy when you face trials’! So just choose joy!” “Are you angry? […]
Category Archives: Posts by Dave
Why You’re Not Broken
When we’ve been deeply hurt, and we see the patterns caused by that hurt reoccurring again and again in our lives, we often write a script for ourselves. That script is called, “Broken.” It’s a label we put on ourselves. Or worse, maybe it’s a label people we love and trust have put on us. […]
How Not to Think a Thought
Self-doubt. Nagging fears. Intrusive thoughts. These are some of the most common experiences in the human condition. And some of the most hidden and denied. Because we all think we’re the only one. Is there any hope? Is there a way to stop the negative thought loop once the thoughts have started? Is there any […]
Why Obedience Is Not the Point
I recently saw a Christian podcast episode titled “Our Job Is Obedience, God’s Job Is Everything Else.” It’s from a very reputable Christian ministry that I have a lot of respect for and I really like. And the episode was actually good and helpful, about doing what God’s called you to do without taking responsibility […]
How Can I Be a Christian and Still …?
A common question I hear from people is, “How can I be a Christian, filled with the Holy Spirit, and still do this thing I’m struggling with? What’s wrong with me?” People feel such enormous shame because of where they’re struggling. We feel like we’re the only one. We feel like we’re a bad Christian. […]
What Church Can Be
Another quiet night’s sleep was shattered by the midnight alarm. The claxon went off in the small, New England lighthouse on the rocky Massachusetts coast. Another ship had run aground in the night fog on the rocks. The men and women in the small, dingy lighthouse jumped out of bed, pulled on their gear, and […]
What Every Relationship Pursues and Protects
Every relationship pursues one of these two goals. Every relationship protects one of these two things. Either connection or distance. That’s it. Terrified of What We Desperately Long For The truth is, we all long for connection, for intimacy. We long to be fully known, accepted, and loved. And there’s the rub. We’re terrified that […]
How to Get Out of Our Head
One of the biggest obstacles we’ve seen to people receiving healing is when they are all caught up in their own head. There are entire denominations that have intellectualized the Bible, believing the lie that the battle is all in the mind. Yes, there certainly is a battle in the mind, in our thoughts. But […]
What to Do when You’ve Got Nothing
So I’m staring at a blank screen where this week’s blog post is supposed to be. And I’ve got nothing. My mind is just blank. So I pray, “Lord, I got nothing.” “So write about that,” came his soft, whispered, answer. “What?!?” was my bewildered response. But then I thought, “Ok, let’s go with that. […]
Why New Year Is in the Dead of Winter
It’s fascinating to me that our New Year here in Western culture occurs in the dead of Winter. I know other cultures’ New Year occurs at different times of the year, and that’s great. I’m sure God is speaking to all cultures with the timing of their New Year celebration, but I’m only qualified to […]









