Have your head and your heart ever disagreed? Especially about whether a relationship is over or not? In your head, you’re totally over it. But your heart keeps weeping, and try as you might, you can’t stuff it down. And, even in other relationships, it keeps flooding back into your mind? You might be suffering […]
If you’re looking to join a healthy group, whether it’s a church, a mastermind, an association, or a support group, here are 7 traits to look for. 1) Givers They are givers, giving to others more than they take. And no one is keeping score. There’s no “you owe me because I helped you.” Their […]
Accountability groups, or accountability partners, are big in some Christian circles. But, while well-intentioned, accountability’s not all it’s cracked up to be. What you actually need is support, not accountability. Here are 4 reasons why. 1) Support Helps, Accountability Controls The critical difference between accountability and support is that accountability is “friendly” control, while support […]
“I’ll just try harder!” How many times, frustrated with yourself, have you doubled-down and said that? I have. When we’re not getting the results we want in our job, our relationships, our body, and/or our spiritual life, we commit to trying harder. Doing all things. Harder this time. “It’ll work this time because I’m going […]
“Imposter Syndrome” is that feeling of inadequacy we all feel when we’re overwhelmed by our calling. Because God always calls us to something bigger than ourselves. He calls us to something we can’t do without him. So often, this is our first response to God’s calling on our lives. And, believe me, imposter syndrome, feeling […]
As a “calling coach,” I’ve been helping people hear God for the calling on their life, and practically step into it, for a while now. When I started, I thought people wanted to know God’s calling on their life, but just didn’t know how. What I actually discovered surprised me. While, yes, we want to […]
How do you do “doing”? Doing stuff is important. Nobody wants to spend their whole life on the couch watching TV while their brain turns to mush. Although we are not what we do, it’s important to do stuff. Unfortunately, many of us do not have a healthy relationship with “doing.” Here are 4 common […]
Too often in the Church we try to address the bad fruit in a person’s life without taking the time to understand the wounding that caused it. If we’re just dealing with the visible bad fruit in people’s lives, and not the bad roots in their hearts that cause it, then we’re just offering a […]
Fear is a signal. We don’t want to be controlled by it. But we don’t want to ignore it either. Fear is a God-given emotion. But fear is scary because it can overwhelm us so easily. Don’t Put Duct Tape on the Oil Light Negative emotions like fear are the idiot lights on the dashboard […]
When we’re in pain, we often take one of four postures toward God. See if any of these sound familiar. Personally, I’ve done them all. (1) Hiding from God Sometimes in our pain, the shame ramps up, and we do anything to not be exposed. Adam and Eve are the poster children for hiding from […]