How Can I Be a Christian and Still …?

A common question I hear from people is, “How can I be a Christian, filled with the Holy Spirit, and still do this thing I’m struggling with? What’s wrong with me?” People feel such enormous shame because of where they’re struggling. We feel like we’re the only one. We feel like we’re a bad Christian.
The truth is, nothing’s wrong with you. You’re not a “bad” Christian (whatever that is). There’s just work to be done.
The Body-Soul-Spirit Model
In order to understand what’s happening, we need to understand what makes up a human being. We are 3 part beings – body, soul, and spirit.
When I first heard about this, I was confused because I thought soul and spirit were just synonyms for the same thing. But they aren’t. Your soul and your spirit are different parts of you.
For the word of God is alive and active. Sharper than any double-edged sword, it penetrates even to dividing soul and spirit, joints and marrow; it judges the thoughts and attitudes of the heart. – Hebrews 4:12
The word of God can’t divide soul and spirit if there’s not a difference between soul and spirit.
So although the words “soul” and “spirit” are often used interchangeably, and they are closely related, there is a difference.
What is our Soul?
Our soul is our mind, will, and emotions:
- The ability to think (mind).
- The ability to choose (will).
- The ability to feel (emotions).
By this definition, other mammals have souls. Take a dog, for example. Dogs can problem solve (mind). Dogs can be angry, sad, or happy (emotions).
And dogs can choose (will). Ever spied a dog deciding if stealing the unattended steak on the counter is worth the displeasure of its owner and the resulting punishment?
What is our Spirit?
Our spirit is that part of humans uniquely (compared to the other animals) made in the image of God (Genesis 1:26-27).
God created the world, the plants, and all the other animals just by speaking. But for humans, God got his hands dirty, physically forming Adam from the dirt, and then God breathed into Adam the breath of life (Genesis 2:7). In Hebrew, the words for “breath,” “spirit,” and “wind” are all the same word.
So when God “breathed into Adam the breath of life,” God was imparting a spirit into humans. This is significantly different from how he created the other animals (by just speaking).
The other animals do not have spirits. Think about it. If a dog has a warm house, plenty of food, and a loving family, that dog is totally happy. He needs nothing else from life. Because the greatest need of a soul is Security.
But humans often have all that, and can still be miserable. Because the greatest need of a spirit is Significance. It’s our spirits within us that long to be part of something bigger than ourselves.
The Body-Soul-Spirit Model in Pictures
So here’s a graphic of how humans were designed by God to operate:
- Our Body gets directions from our Soul.
- Our Soul gets directions from our Spirit.
- Our Spirit is connected to & gets direction from Jesus (through the Holy Spirit).

But then sin enters the picture, and our spirit is dead:

Our connection with God is broken. Our soul is searching for direction, the proverbial “lost soul.” Unfortunately for us, there are plenty of other voices happy to provide destructive direction, empowered when we believe their lies:

Then we get saved, our spirit is made alive again, and our connection with God is restored. But we still have these buggers infecting our soul:

So our soul becomes the battleground, our mind, will, and emotions. The process of sanctification is getting those self-destructive influences out of our soul:

So what’s a Christian to do?
Back to the original question at the top of this post: “How can I be a Christian, filled with the Holy Spirit, and still do this thing I’m struggling with? What’s wrong with me?”
There’s nothing’s wrong with you. You are experiencing God’s design of your humanity. There’s just work to be done.
The negative influences infecting our soul can be:
- Traumatic experiences that need healing.
- Lies we believe (about ourselves, the world, others, and God).
- Demons.
- A combination of the above.
God is inviting you to step into the process of your own personal healing. We all need to do our own work. And that’s going to look different for every person. There’s no “one size fits all.”
If you’ve had difficulty finding safe community where you can heal, reach out to Janet and me. We can stand with you and help you find good help, whether it’s with us or someone else. Ministry, therapy, inner healing, deliverance — we believe in all the tools in the toolbox.
We offer Immanuel Approach ministry, a gentle & affirming technique to connect with Jesus, bringing his transformation into our pain. It can be done over zoom, so your location is not a problem. Reach out to us to schedule a free zoom so we can honor your story and assess what form of healing would serve you best.
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