Embracing the Wounded
One Heart at a Time

DAVE & JANET WERNLI

Why to Help, Not Rescue, Someone Who’s Destroying Their Life

One of the most painful things in life is to watch one of our loved ones destroy their lives. It doesn’t matter if it’s drugs, alcohol, promiscuous sex, porn, gambling, or workaholism. Or something worse. When we medicate the pain in our lives instead of dealing with it, it’s always destructive. And it’s hard to […]

2 Simple Words to Defeat the Bullies

No one likes to be bullied. Yet in our modern, sophisticated world, our enemy’s primary method of controlling the people of God is bullying. The church has been bullied into compliance for far too long. The good news is, whether it’s a personal bully or a societal one, like an unrighteous government, there are two, […]

Why Good Friends Don’t Accept You Just the Way You Are

What do you want in your friends? What makes a good friend? Many people would answer, “A good friend accepts you just the way you are.” I beg to differ. That’s not a friend. Both your local waiter and the cashier at your gas station accept you just the way you are. Because they don’t […]

Performance Orientation

I’ve lived my whole life, since I was a young boy, to hear Jesus say, on that Day, “Well done good and faithful servant.” (See Matthew 25:21 & 23.) Those six blessed words. While I was reflecting on how much I want to hear him say that, I heard the Lord tell me, in the […]

4 Ways to Get the Healing We Need

All of us have wounding. We live in a fallen world with a powerful spiritual enemy who wants to destroy us, or at least keep us from living the adventure God created us for. Our enemy does this by wounding us. The good news is, Jesus heals wounding. But how? How do we go about […]

6 Ways the Enemy Keeps Us in Pain

Our enemy is terrified of who God created you to be. And for good reason. When one Christian actually steps into the adventure God created him to live, the enemy’s kingdom suffers tremendous losses. Structures of lies that took decades to build come crumbling down in a moment. Whole people groups are set free. The […]

How to Know When You’re Decorating the Walls of Your Prison

We all do the best we can to make our lives beautiful. But sometimes we get comfortable with behaviors, either our own or others, that aren’t healthy. We’ve been subject to them for so long they feel normal. Maybe they’re even common. But they aren’t healthy. So instead of living in the mansion of freedom […]

How to Do a Powerful Spiritual Reset in 2 Steps

Starting in late February 2020, during Lent, our church embarked on a sermon series called “Reset: Next Generation.” We sought God through congregational fasting about if and how the Holy Spirit wants our church to change. We found out later that many prophetic voices across Christendom in that same time period received similar words. Reset. […]

Why You Need a Bias toward Action

It’s counter-intuitive, but action wins over clarity every time. Waiting to act until we have clarity will keep us paralyzed, never realizing our calling. It’s just socially acceptable procrastination. Mother Teresa A reporter visited Mother Teresa to do a story. When getting ready to leave, he asked her to pray for him for clarity. He […]

Letting Go of What We Love That’s Killing Us

Sometimes we hang onto things that hold us back from our God-given destiny. They hold us back from the very thing we were created for and would be happiest doing. But we love those things and can’t let go. These things have a name in scripture, but it’s a name our modern world doesn’t like. […]

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