Love Is Unconditional. Relationship Is Not.

How, as a Christian redeemed by a loving God, do we relate to people we love who are behaving badly and hurtfully? The truth is, love is unconditional. Relationship is not. But we should be forgiving, right? Seventy times seven! Love keeps no record of wrongs! Turn the other cheek! Gaslighters, narcissists, and other unhealthy […]

Healthy Relationships Need Conflict

by Dave Wernli

For a long time, I thought one of the beatitudes was, “Blessed are the peace keepers…” But that’s not what Jesus said. He said, “Blessed are the peacemakers…” There’s a huge difference between keeping the peace and making peace. I can speak to this because I made this mistake for decades in my own life. […]