Nobody wants to be confused. Or do we? It turns out a lot of our confusion is intentional. We all say we want clarity. But, all too often, we actually choose confusion over clarity because confusion gives us these 3 benefits. (1) Confusion Lets Us Avoid Conflict I heard a podcast where a business owner […]
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God has a unique calling on each one of us, our unique contribution to the world. The powers of darkness are terribly afraid of it, because when you walk in your calling, they lose real estate. The enemy’s strategy is to so grievously wound us, as early in life as possible, that we don’t ever […]
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Our neighborhood’s polling place is the local elementary school. When I voted in the last election, I saw a huge banner hanging in the school cafeteria that read, “You Are Defined by Your Actions.” Nothing could be further from the truth. I get it. The school is trying to instill good behavior. That’s a good, […]
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Can we be honest without being mean? Our churches have taught us to be “good” people. To be nice. To be kind. And that’s good – kindness is a fruit of the spirit, after all (Galatians 5:22-23). The problem is, with too many churches, it stops right there. Be nice. Be affirming. Don’t rock the […]
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With the overturn of Roe v. Wade, our culture is in an emotionally volatile season right now. It can be scary, difficult, and even dangerous to jump into the conversation. But we must. We have the life-giving truth that sets people free. God has called us to such a time as this (Esther 4:14). We […]
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I have a friend who had a dream. People were standing in lines waiting to go somewhere, or get into something. Many lines, straight and orderly. Very polite, very systematic. But then some people came along who created quite a disturbance by pulling people out of the lines. They were very adamant about convincing people […]
In this fallen world, the human condition is a paradox of two contradictory, deep primal pulls. One is longing to be fully known, and to know others, in relationally intimacy. The other is being terrified of it. We are terrified of the intimacy we so deeply long for. That terror usually is there because our […]
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I’ve been asked recently how to find a healthy church. What does that even look like? Are there any? Does such a thing even exist? Well, I’m happy to report, having found one ourselves and having seen many, yes, they do exist. I’ve also been in unhealthy churches for years, and there are many of […]
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One of the biggest disagreements in Christendom is over counseling versus inner healing versus deliverance. And within that sentence lies the whole problem: Saying the word “versus.” It’s not “either/or.” It’s “both/and.” In our scarcity mindset and fear of doing it wrong, we so often make a controversy on earth where there isn’t one in […]
None of us want to admit it, but we all have it. Or have had it at some point. Emotional pain that just won’t go away. Sometimes we think we’ve stuffed it, but then – bam – something seemingly innocent happens and it all comes crashing back. Daniel was so past his divorce. He’d made […]
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Why We Choose Confusion over Clarity
/2 Comments/in Identity, Posts by Dave /by Dave WernliNobody wants to be confused. Or do we? It turns out a lot of our confusion is intentional. We all say we want clarity. But, all too often, we actually choose confusion over clarity because confusion gives us these 3 benefits. (1) Confusion Lets Us Avoid Conflict I heard a podcast where a business owner […]
How to Find Your Calling with 3 Easy Lists
/0 Comments/in Calling, Identity, Posts by Dave /by Dave WernliGod has a unique calling on each one of us, our unique contribution to the world. The powers of darkness are terribly afraid of it, because when you walk in your calling, they lose real estate. The enemy’s strategy is to so grievously wound us, as early in life as possible, that we don’t ever […]
Why You Are Not Defined by Your Actions
/7 Comments/in Cornerstone Content, Identity, Posts by Dave /by Dave WernliOur neighborhood’s polling place is the local elementary school. When I voted in the last election, I saw a huge banner hanging in the school cafeteria that read, “You Are Defined by Your Actions.” Nothing could be further from the truth. I get it. The school is trying to instill good behavior. That’s a good, […]
How to Be Honest without Being Mean
/2 Comments/in Posts by Dave, Relationships /by Dave WernliCan we be honest without being mean? Our churches have taught us to be “good” people. To be nice. To be kind. And that’s good – kindness is a fruit of the spirit, after all (Galatians 5:22-23). The problem is, with too many churches, it stops right there. Be nice. Be affirming. Don’t rock the […]
How to Engage Emotionally Triggered People without Getting Skewered
/4 Comments/in Christian Living, Posts by Dave /by Dave WernliWith the overturn of Roe v. Wade, our culture is in an emotionally volatile season right now. It can be scary, difficult, and even dangerous to jump into the conversation. But we must. We have the life-giving truth that sets people free. God has called us to such a time as this (Esther 4:14). We […]
Wonderfully Disruptive Spiritual Technology
/4 Comments/in Christian Living, Posts by Dave /by Dave WernliI have a friend who had a dream. People were standing in lines waiting to go somewhere, or get into something. Many lines, straight and orderly. Very polite, very systematic. But then some people came along who created quite a disturbance by pulling people out of the lines. They were very adamant about convincing people […]
3 Ways Healthy Churches Do Life Together
/0 Comments/in Healthy Church, Posts by Dave /by Dave WernliIn this fallen world, the human condition is a paradox of two contradictory, deep primal pulls. One is longing to be fully known, and to know others, in relationally intimacy. The other is being terrified of it. We are terrified of the intimacy we so deeply long for. That terror usually is there because our […]
4 Key Signs of a Healthy Church
/0 Comments/in Healthy Church, Posts by Dave /by Dave WernliI’ve been asked recently how to find a healthy church. What does that even look like? Are there any? Does such a thing even exist? Well, I’m happy to report, having found one ourselves and having seen many, yes, they do exist. I’ve also been in unhealthy churches for years, and there are many of […]
The 3 Most Powerful Tools for Freedom & Healing
/2 Comments/in Cornerstone Content, Inner Healing, Posts by Dave /by Dave WernliOne of the biggest disagreements in Christendom is over counseling versus inner healing versus deliverance. And within that sentence lies the whole problem: Saying the word “versus.” It’s not “either/or.” It’s “both/and.” In our scarcity mindset and fear of doing it wrong, we so often make a controversy on earth where there isn’t one in […]
What to Do when the Pain Won’t Go Away
/12 Comments/in Cornerstone Content, Inner Healing, Posts by Dave /by Dave WernliNone of us want to admit it, but we all have it. Or have had it at some point. Emotional pain that just won’t go away. Sometimes we think we’ve stuffed it, but then – bam – something seemingly innocent happens and it all comes crashing back. Daniel was so past his divorce. He’d made […]