We can unknowingly do tremendous damage by guilting ourselves (or other people) into forgiving too soon. What?!? The Bible commands us to forgive! Yes, it does. I completely believe in the power of forgiveness, no argument there. But it has to be real forgiveness, not cheap forgiveness. Forgiveness is one of the most misunderstood topics […]
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Another quiet night’s sleep was shattered by the midnight alarm. The claxon went off in the small, New England lighthouse on the rocky Massachusetts coast. Another ship had run aground in the night fog on the rocks. The men and women in the small, dingy lighthouse jumped out of bed, pulled on their gear, and […]
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Having doubts doesn’t mean you don’t have faith, in the same way that having fear doesn’t mean you aren’t courageous. What?!? You can’t be courageous and fearful at the same time, can you? Yes, absolutely you can. Having courage doesn’t mean you’re not afraid. In fact, the brave person and the coward both feel the […]
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Every relationship pursues one of these two goals. Every relationship protects one of these two things. Either connection or distance. That’s it. Terrified of What We Desperately Long For The truth is, we all long for connection, for intimacy. We long to be fully known, accepted, and loved. And there’s the rub. We’re terrified that […]
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One of the biggest obstacles we’ve seen to people receiving healing is when they are all caught up in their own head. There are entire denominations that have intellectualized the Bible, believing the lie that the battle is all in the mind. Yes, there certainly is a battle in the mind, in our thoughts. But […]
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As the church, we are Jesus’ hands, feet, voice, and heart to the world. We invite wounded people into transformational intimacy with our Savior by stewarding both truth and compassion. But there are 3 mindset traps that sabotage Jesus’ mission to wounded people. These 3 mindset traps are so insidious and sneaky we often don’t […]
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As God brings wounded people to himself, we as the Church need to learn how to facilitate the healing transformation God wants to bring. Often, this starts with just learning how to pray for people effectively, whether it’s after-service prayer, a phone call from a friend in need, or in a private, dedicated, ministry setting. […]
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So I’m staring at a blank screen where this week’s blog post is supposed to be. And I’ve got nothing. My mind is just blank. So I pray, “Lord, I got nothing.” “So write about that,” came his soft, whispered, answer. “What?!?” was my bewildered response. But then I thought, “Ok, let’s go with that. […]
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It’s fascinating to me that our New Year here in Western culture occurs in the dead of Winter. I know other cultures’ New Year occurs at different times of the year, and that’s great. I’m sure God is speaking to all cultures with the timing of their New Year celebration, but I’m only qualified to […]
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When I was a kid, Christmas couldn’t come fast enough. I loved the big family gatherings, seeing my cousins, all the great food (especially my mom’s fudge), decorating the tree, and of course all the presents. I loved it all. And my birthday is in December. It was the best month of the year. Now, […]
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Real Forgiveness Is Grief Work
/0 Comments/in Inner Healing, Posts by Dave /by Dave WernliWe can unknowingly do tremendous damage by guilting ourselves (or other people) into forgiving too soon. What?!? The Bible commands us to forgive! Yes, it does. I completely believe in the power of forgiveness, no argument there. But it has to be real forgiveness, not cheap forgiveness. Forgiveness is one of the most misunderstood topics […]
What Church Can Be
/4 Comments/in Healthy Church, Posts by Dave /by Dave WernliAnother quiet night’s sleep was shattered by the midnight alarm. The claxon went off in the small, New England lighthouse on the rocky Massachusetts coast. Another ship had run aground in the night fog on the rocks. The men and women in the small, dingy lighthouse jumped out of bed, pulled on their gear, and […]
How to Live by Faith While Having Doubts
/0 Comments/in Christian Living /by Dave WernliHaving doubts doesn’t mean you don’t have faith, in the same way that having fear doesn’t mean you aren’t courageous. What?!? You can’t be courageous and fearful at the same time, can you? Yes, absolutely you can. Having courage doesn’t mean you’re not afraid. In fact, the brave person and the coward both feel the […]
What Every Relationship Pursues and Protects
/4 Comments/in Posts by Dave, Relationships /by Dave WernliEvery relationship pursues one of these two goals. Every relationship protects one of these two things. Either connection or distance. That’s it. Terrified of What We Desperately Long For The truth is, we all long for connection, for intimacy. We long to be fully known, accepted, and loved. And there’s the rub. We’re terrified that […]
How to Get Out of Our Head
/2 Comments/in Cornerstone Content, Inner Healing, Posts by Dave /by Dave WernliOne of the biggest obstacles we’ve seen to people receiving healing is when they are all caught up in their own head. There are entire denominations that have intellectualized the Bible, believing the lie that the battle is all in the mind. Yes, there certainly is a battle in the mind, in our thoughts. But […]
3 Mindset Traps that Sabotage Jesus’ Mission to Wounded People
/2 Comments/in Calling, Healthy Church, Posts by Dave /by Dave WernliAs the church, we are Jesus’ hands, feet, voice, and heart to the world. We invite wounded people into transformational intimacy with our Savior by stewarding both truth and compassion. But there are 3 mindset traps that sabotage Jesus’ mission to wounded people. These 3 mindset traps are so insidious and sneaky we often don’t […]
6 Ways to Facilitate God’s Healing Transformation in Wounded People
/0 Comments/in Healthy Church, Posts by Dave /by Dave WernliAs God brings wounded people to himself, we as the Church need to learn how to facilitate the healing transformation God wants to bring. Often, this starts with just learning how to pray for people effectively, whether it’s after-service prayer, a phone call from a friend in need, or in a private, dedicated, ministry setting. […]
What to Do when You’ve Got Nothing
/2 Comments/in Calling, Posts by Dave /by Dave WernliSo I’m staring at a blank screen where this week’s blog post is supposed to be. And I’ve got nothing. My mind is just blank. So I pray, “Lord, I got nothing.” “So write about that,” came his soft, whispered, answer. “What?!?” was my bewildered response. But then I thought, “Ok, let’s go with that. […]
Why New Year Is in the Dead of Winter
/10 Comments/in Christian Living, Inner Healing, Posts by Dave /by Dave WernliIt’s fascinating to me that our New Year here in Western culture occurs in the dead of Winter. I know other cultures’ New Year occurs at different times of the year, and that’s great. I’m sure God is speaking to all cultures with the timing of their New Year celebration, but I’m only qualified to […]
How to Live through Painful Holidays by Doing a Gift Exchange with Jesus
/6 Comments/in Christian Living, Posts by Dave /by Dave WernliWhen I was a kid, Christmas couldn’t come fast enough. I loved the big family gatherings, seeing my cousins, all the great food (especially my mom’s fudge), decorating the tree, and of course all the presents. I loved it all. And my birthday is in December. It was the best month of the year. Now, […]