This post is a follow-on to our previous post, The 2 Littlest Words Causing the 4 Biggest Problems, about setting boundaries. When you decide to set healthy boundaries in your life, it’s usually not all rainbows and unicorns. It can get really messy, because along with moving your life forward in a healthy way, setting […]
Most relationship problems, and you could even say most sins in the world, come down to problems with this one thing. Boundaries. And most boundaries problems come down to the refusal to either hear or say one of two little words. “Yes” and “no.” [The concepts in this post come from the excellent book Boundaries by […]
As we teach and write about Christian identity, we find one of the biggest obstacles to really finding and walking in our true identity is forgiveness. Nothing will derail the calling on your life more than unforgiveness. Yet, we find many Christians don’t really understand forgiveness. There’s a key ingredient to forgiveness that’s counter-intuitive, that […]
We all hate corporate greed. No one likes being reduced to a dollar sign. No likes being treated like a sales target. We can all feel when we’re being pitched and we hate it, especially when it’s clearly disingenuous and false. The reason we hate it so much is that no one wants to be […]
I recently did a post on how to come into agreement with other people; your spouse, your boss, your friends, whoever. This post presented the 3 parts of agreement, which I’ll summarize here. 1) Logical Agreement. Is this what you THINK we should do? 2) Emotional Agreement. Is this what you WANT to do? 3) […]
Often we choose bondage over freedom. Sounds strange, doesn’t it? Who would do that? We don’t do it intentionally. We don’t even realize we’re doing it. But we do. We do it when we choose the sick familiar over the healthy unknown. The dysfunction we grew up with is familiar. We think it’s normal, even […]
Sacred. What does that word even mean? We hardly use it anymore today. It sounds like a vegetable. “Yeah, we just planted some sacred between the beets and the squash.” But it’s a very important word. Because life is sacred. When our hearts lose the truth of that last sentence, we descend into the very […]
We know agreement is a key to any kind of successful partnership, whether it’s in business, a marriage, or a creative partnership. Unity is a powerful thing that can weather any storm. When troubles destroy a relationship, be it a marriage or a business or what have you, it’s not the troubles that actually destroyed […]
“It’s not fair!” said every person everywhere, at some point in their lives. Some of us live in that unhappy place of constantly striving for fairness and never seeing it. Some of us sink there when bad things happen. We see it all over our political system—the constant cry for fairness, for everyone to be […]
At a recent writer’s conference (Jeff Goins’ Tribe conference), I heard a speaker, Joseph Michael, author of the online course Learn Scrivener Fast, say he was thankful for his failures. I’d always known intellectually that failures are good for you. As long as you learn something, failures are learning experiences. They’re a necessary part of […]