When wounded people come into the church, we do one of two well-meaning but damaging things:

1. We minimize or dismiss their pain.
2. We try to fix them by being the therapist.

And the worst part is, we don’t know we’re causing damage. But we are.

We really do mean well. We sincerely want to help. But no one has trained us how to be good support for wounded people.

This book addresses that problem.

The table of contents is a quick overview of the book’s takeaways:
•    Introduction: Jesus invites wounded people into healing transformation. Do we?
•    Chapter 1: What not to say: Don’t minimize, discount, or shame their pain.
•    Chapter 2: What to say: How to validate their pain.
•    Chapter 3: Never judge a person’s wounding before you know their story.
•    Chapter 4: Never expose someone’s shame; that convinces them shame was right.
•    Chapter 5: Understanding the nature of wounding: Unworthiness & trauma.
•    Chapter 6: Don’t push wounded people into cheap forgiveness.
•    Chapter 7: Real forgiveness is grief work.
•    Chapter 8: We blame trauma survivors to make our world feel safe. So do they.
•    Chapter 9: Don’t practice Christian peer pressure. Honor people’s no and their process.
•    Chapter 10: The Church is a lifesaving station, not a live stage show.
•    Chapter 11: 3 mindset traps that hijack Jesus’ mission to wounded people.
•    Chapter 12: 7 practical tips to steward wounded hearts well.
•    Conclusion: How to steward wounded hearts well.

Because if they can’t go to the people of God when they’re hurting, where can they go?